Well hear it is folks, I have figured out the secret to get you everything you want in life....read on to hear about the secret and how I figured it out....
I heard somewhere from an Arbonne big wig that, "you can have your dreams or you can have your excuses, you can't have both."
I have decided to take that to a step that I can understand a tad better, "you can have what you WANT or you can have your excuses, you can't have both." Now the reason that I changed the word from "dream" to "want" is unfortunately I don't find that people really don't dream any more. It is actually quite sad. Instead of dreaming about what we want and making that happen, we have become so much more content with complaining about what we have or don't have that we spend little or no time actually focusing on changing the problem. We walk around wearing the things that are difficult about our lives and what we dislike as badges on our sleeves. Have you ever heard or participated in a conversation where it was as though one person was trying to "up" the other about who had more crap to do? Or whose life was crappier? Whose job was crappier?
Daily, people complain about their jobs, about their health, about their weight, about the things they HAVE to do that they don't want to....of course I have been there, I complain, sometimes a lot. But what I try not to do is complain about the things that I am capable of changing.
Here it is, what is the ONE AND ONLY thing that is keeping you from being unable to change the things that you dislike...here's the big reveal....you. Yup, you....you are the only thing that stands in the way of the changes you would like to make or see happen.
A brilliant woman, Tiffany Leclair Conway, the owner of CoCo Cheveuz said once, "life is all about decisions, and each decision is as simple as turning a light on and off." It is true, every decision is a yes or no in your head; (it's) your feelings, hang ups, responsibilities, that make a decision seem more complicated. If you want something, you have to decide you are going to have it. If you hate your job, decide that you are not going to it any more and then make the steps in order for that to happen....if you absolutely cannot change jobs, then change your feelings about it. That's it. Plain and simple. Don't make it more complicated.
If you complain about the way you look, you don't feel well, you are underweight/overweight, whatever, make up your mind to change it. Then do it. Don't complain one day about it, then the next day eat garbage. If you want to be unhealthy, do it! In the end no one really cares but you! No one can care more about what is going on in your life but you. Sure, we can hope and plead that you do one thing or another but at the end of the day, YOU are the only one that stands in your way from having anything and everything that you want.
I know there are going to be some people reading this that are going to say, "well, that is easy for you to say but blah diggy blah blah blah...." My "blahs" are indicating that what comes out of your mouth next matters nothing to me. It is simply your excuse and whatever other justification you are giving your excuse to keep you in the situation you don't want to be in but are too afraid or unwilling to change. Stop allowing yourself to sabotage yourself...yes you are...you are sabotaging yourself and getting in your own way of what you really want.....don't like your job? get a new one. need more money? find a way, there is one....where there is a will there is a way....feeling fat? put down the fork and go for a walk. too tired to do the dishes? get off facebook and updating your status, that isn't going to get the dishes washed...it's really not rocket science people....the fact is I would really rather see more people being happy and content with their lives instead of the majority who seem to put negativity out and still have the balls to complain that they aren't getting what they want out of life.
So seriously, KNOCK IT OFF ALREADY! Change what you don't like or please, stop complaining about it.
Preggo Out
Wednesday, October 26, 2011
Tuesday, October 11, 2011
Lessons from a Fat Pregnant Lady
So I am at the restaurant the other day and I am having a hard time squeezing behind this guy that was sitting waaaaayyyyy too far back in his chair....he appeared to be a little rough around the edges and looked like "that guy". You know, the one that would be all sorts of pissed off if you asked him to push in.
As I spent the next hour doing my best not to bump him with my enormo belly or wide ass, I was getting more and more annoyed. It was so obvious I was having difficulty getting around him, the people he was with could clearly see it too!! Push your damn chair in!!!! I was really beginning to think the guy was a major ass and was relieved to see that they were paying their tab and leaving. I was thinking in my head how I try hard to be conscious of others at all times, at the grocery store, at stop lights and stop signs, in traffic, when my kid is freaking out in public, etc.
My indignant attitude quickly turned into one of sheer embarassment, as this man stood up and put on his ball cap with a purple heart and began limping out. It was clear as he was standing he had a prosthetic leg (unable to bend it and sit closer to the table for those of you that aren't getting it...) He said thank you, and told me to have a nice day. I just tried to smile and hide my embarassment as it was so clear now who the ass truly was.
Now I know we hear stories like this all the time, but it affected me differently especially because I was the one being such a big pooper about the whole thing. I had already made up in my mind what this guy was like, how he would react to a simple question without any indication of who he was at all. I completely and unfairly judged him. Here I was feeling like I was superior because I thought I had such a "giving attittude" and this guy had truly made a sacrifice in a way I would never know or understand.
This brings me to my next gripe. I have recently noticed a lot of pissing and moaning on Facebook, my FB friends complaining about seeing people use their food stamps to by lavish groceries. There was one just the other day about someone watched a guy buy beer, lobster and steak with his food stamps.....of course someone relpied that the guy was also probably driving an Escalade....really?
Unless you know the person, you don't know what is going on in their life and it is 100% not your place to judge. First, let's explore how you knew the guy was using Food Stamps. In Maine, the food stamp credits are placed on a something like a credit card so unless you are watching the person closely, how the hell could you tell what kind of a credit card they were paying with!? Furthermore, would you want someone watching you as closely while you pay your tally?! Second, I am not even going to go into the claim that the guy was buying beer with food stamps....it's not possible...so either it wasn't food stamps or the claim was inflated....which is really neither here nor there at the end of the day...it really brings me to, IT'S NONE OF YOUR DAMN BUSINESS!
Perhaps this guy was celebrating his birthday? an anniversary? landed a new job? a nice treat for himself after he just put his dog down? Do you really think he should have been buying canned green beans and SPAM? My point is, you don't know his situation so stop trying to get into his business and judge him. I would hate to for someone judge you should you ever find yourself in his shoes...
As a former social worker, I do know that there are some out there that abuse the system. That is definitely a character flaw with that person, however it is more of a system issue than anything else. Opportunist are everywhere waiting to strike when the opportunity arises, focus on changing the system instead of the poor shmuck you don't know anything about at the store....and what the hell, focus on changing your attititude towards complete strangers!
Focus on making life better for others and yours will be better in return. Thank the universe for it's neccesity to have balance.
It's been 45 minutes since my last meal, time to eat again.
Preggo Out
As I spent the next hour doing my best not to bump him with my enormo belly or wide ass, I was getting more and more annoyed. It was so obvious I was having difficulty getting around him, the people he was with could clearly see it too!! Push your damn chair in!!!! I was really beginning to think the guy was a major ass and was relieved to see that they were paying their tab and leaving. I was thinking in my head how I try hard to be conscious of others at all times, at the grocery store, at stop lights and stop signs, in traffic, when my kid is freaking out in public, etc.
My indignant attitude quickly turned into one of sheer embarassment, as this man stood up and put on his ball cap with a purple heart and began limping out. It was clear as he was standing he had a prosthetic leg (unable to bend it and sit closer to the table for those of you that aren't getting it...) He said thank you, and told me to have a nice day. I just tried to smile and hide my embarassment as it was so clear now who the ass truly was.
Now I know we hear stories like this all the time, but it affected me differently especially because I was the one being such a big pooper about the whole thing. I had already made up in my mind what this guy was like, how he would react to a simple question without any indication of who he was at all. I completely and unfairly judged him. Here I was feeling like I was superior because I thought I had such a "giving attittude" and this guy had truly made a sacrifice in a way I would never know or understand.
This brings me to my next gripe. I have recently noticed a lot of pissing and moaning on Facebook, my FB friends complaining about seeing people use their food stamps to by lavish groceries. There was one just the other day about someone watched a guy buy beer, lobster and steak with his food stamps.....of course someone relpied that the guy was also probably driving an Escalade....really?
Unless you know the person, you don't know what is going on in their life and it is 100% not your place to judge. First, let's explore how you knew the guy was using Food Stamps. In Maine, the food stamp credits are placed on a something like a credit card so unless you are watching the person closely, how the hell could you tell what kind of a credit card they were paying with!? Furthermore, would you want someone watching you as closely while you pay your tally?! Second, I am not even going to go into the claim that the guy was buying beer with food stamps....it's not possible...so either it wasn't food stamps or the claim was inflated....which is really neither here nor there at the end of the day...it really brings me to, IT'S NONE OF YOUR DAMN BUSINESS!
Perhaps this guy was celebrating his birthday? an anniversary? landed a new job? a nice treat for himself after he just put his dog down? Do you really think he should have been buying canned green beans and SPAM? My point is, you don't know his situation so stop trying to get into his business and judge him. I would hate to for someone judge you should you ever find yourself in his shoes...
As a former social worker, I do know that there are some out there that abuse the system. That is definitely a character flaw with that person, however it is more of a system issue than anything else. Opportunist are everywhere waiting to strike when the opportunity arises, focus on changing the system instead of the poor shmuck you don't know anything about at the store....and what the hell, focus on changing your attititude towards complete strangers!
Focus on making life better for others and yours will be better in return. Thank the universe for it's neccesity to have balance.
It's been 45 minutes since my last meal, time to eat again.
Preggo Out
Monday, October 10, 2011
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